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Sylvia Becker-Hill

Who is ruling your life?

September 2012

School started last week, and here in Michigan it feels like the year is divided into two parts: “school-year craziness” and “summer vacation laziness.The transition between them takes about a week and creates a lot of mixed feelings. I feel melancholy because the days are rapidly getting shorter, and I would love to hold on to summer. I feel motherly pride about how my boys are growing up and starting a new school year. And I feel great excitement about the speaking invitations and new client projects that are coming up or beginning in September.

Where do you live? Do you experience any transitional feelings around this time of year too?

My favorite moments this summer were either at one of Michigan’s gorgeous beaches or around our new fire pit. This photo of me was taken one evening a few weeks ago at a beach between Petoskey and Harbor Springs, Michigan.

I am starting this fresh round of fall newsletters by sharing more insights from my neuroscience-literature studies and personal growth work over the summer. In the May issue, which featured The Reinforcing Positive Memories Process™, I mentioned how some traits of our brain make me mad when I discover them. The one I’m going to share today falls into this category.

Speaking of the last newsletter, it brought me literally the sweetest fan mail ever: a surprise package from Switzerland filled with white chocolate with almonds and pistachios! My former client, Petra Hampel, sent a note and the chocolate to say, “Thank you for the deep inspiration you send me with each of your newsletters.” Thank you, Petra!

Make sure you read my entire newsletter so that you do not miss any “Swiss chocolate worthy” inspiration! This month’s newsletter includes my first EFT YouTube video. I still have to learn how to look into the lens instead of at the screen when I record myself on my own! The video is well worth watching if you want to learn about the benefits to you of using EFT and why as an executive coach I increasingly use EFT with my clients. The results are phenomenal!

This Month's Featured Article

How Randomness Rules Your Life

You know by now from reading my newsletters—and I deliberately repeat myself here—that it is crucial for your success in life and business to know about your brain and understand how it works. As I have said before:

Our brain is capable of greatness but hardwired for survival.

The most important feeling the brain craves is the feeling of being safe. Being safe creates a chemical equilibrium that our brain sees as comfortable, or “how it should be.” When this equilibrium is disturbed, our brain becomes nervous, scared or panicky. Over the course of thousands of years, the brain has developed strategies to experience this feeling of being safe as often as possible. One of these strategies belongs to my newly created category of “brain traits that make me mad upon discovery!”

I’m referring to the brain’s strategy to see patterns, connections and meaning in completely unrelated, random things.

Why is this important to know and understand? It is important because it has consequences for our decision-making style, our project planning and our celebration of success and punishment of failures.

Consider this: The strategy your team developed for your last project seemed to cause great results. Perhaps those great results were actually caused by simple luck and random success. When you use the same seemingly powerful strategy on your next project, it will be doomed because it was randomness, not the strategy, that created the great results in the first place!

While having lunch with a potential German business partner, you see two VW Beetles pass by in just five minutes. The synchronicity you see leads you to say “yes” to his proposal because you think it is a sign from the universe that this German business contact is one of high quality, just like a VW; therefore, you should do business with him! Perhaps, instead, it is simply randomness, and you have now made a poor business decision based on an erroneous conclusion!

Reflect on the lucky CEO who received $40 million in bonuses at the end of the year as a reward for the great performance of his company. Perhaps he had no more to do with that success than the unlucky CEO who was fired before him—the one who, after a year of leading the same company, received just $20 million in bonuses as part of a parachute package. Maybe in both cases it was randomness and luck, rather than genius leadership, that caused the fluctuating numbers in the company’s stock market value.

Our brain sees meaning, patterns and synchronicity because it likes having the power of bringing order to chaos. A completely random universe minimally affected by our abilities, competencies and strategies is simply not attractive to our brain. So it creates the illusion of a cause-and-effect connection to make us feel in control.

As a translation into practice, I invite you to do the following experiment: For one week listen to other people talk about their lives and what they’re up to. Try to determine if they are taking credit for or creating drama about events that are really just random occurrences. Honestly consider what role luck or random success has played in your life.

My personal results so far: I am more relaxed and more humble. On issues where luck and randomness play a much bigger role than my abilities or power, I have let go of trying to be in control and forcing things into existence. Becoming aware of my brain’s addiction to creating meaning where there is none has helped me enjoy the mystery of life much more by allowing me to simply be in awe.

This article was inspired by my ongoing reading of The Drunkard’s Walk by Leonard Mlodinow.

I would love to know what you think after reading this article and what lessons you take from it.

What's New?

Please enjoy my new YouTube video with an introduction to Pro-EFT:

You can download the handout mentioned in the video via this link: Pro-EFT Tapping Points.

Find more background information and an application for a free Pro-EFT session on my webpage: http://sylviabeckerhill.com/proeft/.

What is Sylvia doing this month?

September 22: Speaker and exhibitor at the South East Michigan Entrepreneurs Association 2012 Entrepreneurs Expo, Southfield/Metro Detroit, MI

September 24: Participating in a Business Plan Meeting with the key players of her “Money with Joy” Team from Adonai Business Solutions to map out her business plan for 2013, Lansing, MI

September 28: Participating in the 2012 PCAM UnConference: From the Inside Out, Dewitt, MI

Final Words

Welcome, all new followers! I am confident that you will enjoy the information and resources available to you through this newsletter and my website. I encourage you to leave comments on my blog and to share my newsletter with others who you think might benefit from it. Be sure to remind them that they will get two free e-books upon subscribing!

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In This Issue

Personal Note from Sylvia

Featured Article

What's New?

What is Sylvia doing this month?

Final Words

 

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Sylvia Becker-Hill, Dipl. Verw., MA Phil, PCC
Own Your Brain. Own Your Life.™

Under this motto Sylvia works as an Executive Change Strategist helping corporate leaders to become change champions while gaining more control, efficiency and productivity with less stress.

Combining her years of experience as a corporate coach with cutting edge techniques in change management, neuroscience, emotional intelligence and Pro-EFT Sylvia expertly guides her clients to achieve quickly deep, lasting, life changing transformations that they report as nothing short of magical.

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