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The #1 Killer of Change Attempts: Time Confusion
Remember how I tried to inspire you to "brainwash" your brain for your personal spring cleaning? Here is another reason why you should do that regularly: When you consciously set goals for yourself to change something, your
sub-conscious mind needs to support that. Otherwise, you'll drive your "car of change" with one foot on the gas and one on the brake. Consciously you think, "I want to reduce my TV time to have more time for my active hobbies." But
unconsciously you might think, "I feel so comfortable and safe when watching TV. It reminds me of the happy times spent with my dad, and I want to stay connected to him." Guess what? You'll end up with your bag of chips and a beer
in front of the TV!
The frustrating news for all of us is that the sub-conscious mind always wins in the end. (Remember, conscious willpower is a depleting resource!) In cases of
strong disagreement between your conscious and sub-conscious minds, you literally create an inner conflict that not only destroys your change attempts but, in the worst cases, can even make you sick! Your own body becomes a war-zone and starts to show symptoms that may later be diagnosed as
diseases by your doctor. To make lasting change possible and to accelerate the change, you need your conscious and sub-conscious mind to work together. This is what I call Brainalignment™! (Don't look it up. I invented this
term :-).) One of the biggest problems in the conflict between our two minds is that they often operate in different time zones. Neuroscience has recently shown that the sub-conscious mind can't distinguish between past, present and future. For it,
everything is always happening Now!
What does that mean? Let me share an example of brain-misalignment™ that I discovered recently in myself. For about one and a half years I have wanted to start using videos for my own marketing. I paid money for webinars to learn how to do it,
and I bought all the professional equipment necessary to create my own little video studio in my house. I was totally clear about why I want to do it and felt highly motivated. But the results: None. I didn't know what blocked me.
Finally, I sat down and used some of my coaching tools—one of which I will teach you in my next ezine—to discover the following: When I was 11 years old and in high school, we
went on a class trip with an overnight stay in a youth hotel where we had a dance party. The day after we came back, I entered the school and was greeted by laughter and people whispering behind my back. Anxiously wondering what was
going on, I went to my classroom and discovered a big pin-board beside the door with photos from our dance party. In the middle of the collage of photos was one of me dancing with a mini-skirt in full motion. The photo was taken by
someone lying on the floor, and the view was totally distorted. I looked like a disabled alien trying to swim! I was too embarrassed to take it away and played teenage-style "cool." Because of that event, my sub-conscious mind decided
to do whatever it could to prevent such humiliation from happening again—no more embarrassing pictures of me going public!
This incident happened 33 years ago. I didn't remember it consciously. But for my "always being in the now'"
sub-consciousness, the attempt to start video-marketing triggered this old emotional trauma and "Bang!", the old programming was running it's course, finding ways to distract me from my goal and making sure I wouldn't "go public" visually. Isn't that interesting?
Whenever you experience yourself not doing something that you have decided to do over several days, weeks or months, you can be sure it's not your conscious actual self blocking you from doing it! It's your younger self trying to protect
you through the old conditioning of your sub-conscious mind that doesn't care if you are in the year 2011 or 1978.
Got it?
Watch for the July issue of my ezine, which will not only cover the progress of my own YouTube channel, the result of my new brainalignment™, but (even more important) will also include one of the processes I use to brainwash myself—one
that you can do too! |
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a few days my second son Sebastian, a bit more than 5 years old, will have his graduation party from pre-school. I still remember very well his birth in April of 2006 and the first weeks of his life… as well as our move to the U.S. when he
was just three months old. I'm very aware of the details and can feel the difference between who I was at the time and how I felt then compared to who I am now and how I feel now. How about you? Do you think you have a clear sense of time
passing and the differences between moments in time?
