Sylvia Becker-Hill

Life is a Beach

July 2011

Life is a Beach! Are you able to experience it this way this summer, or are you too busy with work? Is the weather not cooperating—as is the case right now for a lot of my German family members and friends—or is it reliable and stable as it is here in Michigan?

Life is a beach for me; that's for sure. I spend about two hours a day an average of three days a week beside the pool of my fitness-studio, and I spend two days a week at one of the many beautiful beaches Michigan has to offer. There I watch my boys learn how to swim and dive, build sand castles with them, enjoy delicious picnics, read magazines, plan business moves and contemplate life.

My list of things that I dream about doing in my life includes "safari in Kenya." To my surprise I recently got to go on a "Lions Safari" in Canada with my family on our way to the Toronto airport (en route to Germany). As an even bigger surprise, it wasn't the lions that impressed us the most, but rather the big ostriches and their funny and weird behavior within our hands' reach.

One of them pooped right beside our car, and we all agreed that this was by far the most disgusting and fascinating thing we had ever experienced! Had it not included such humorous aspects, this experience could have been traumatizing because of the strong emotions it evoked. (It happened too fast for me to shoot a photo, which my husband said was for the best.)

Have you had any surprising experiences or ones that have evoked strong emotions in your life lately?

The stronger emotions are, the deeper experiences get burned into your brain.

If you have had strong emotions triggered and intuitively know that there is an underlying issue that is worth exploring and possibly changing, then read the article below in which I teach (as I promised last time*) one of my self-coaching tools: The Emotional Brainwash Process™.

*In order to understand the context of this process and why I promised that, you might want to read the May and June issues of my newsletter in the archives.

This Month's Featured Article

Recognize, Stop, Guide, Ask, Integrate:
The Emotional Brainwash Process™

For 20 years I have been studying and practicing three things in order to understand my own brain—and therefore myself—better: meditation, methods for raising my own awareness, and neuroscience. I do all of this with an attitude of research and trial and error. I love experimenting with myself and creating new processes that are derived from the great tools and teachings I have obtained from wonderful books or teachers. I owe many of them deep gratitude, but unfortunately, sometimes after years of digging, I am no longer able to attribute from where or whom some of the pieces of wisdom came. Please forgive me.

The process I give you here today is designed by me and was first communicated and successfully practiced by my students during my The Coachmakers Training™ coaching educational program.

Indicators of when to use this process:
You experience strong emotions (e.g. stress, anger, panic…) or uncomfortable emotions (e.g. irritation, vague fear, nervousness…), or you have a vague sense that something significant is happening inside yourself, or your intuition is on alert and wants you to check in about what's going on right now.

Success-generating attitude:
Open mind, open heart, gentleness, compassion and curiosity

The Process

Step 1: Recognize that "something" is happening inside you and that emotions have been triggered.

Step 2: Stop whatever you are doing and stand or sit still without moving.

Step 3: Direct your full attention like a spotlight onto whatever you are experiencing and feeling right now until your mental chatter calms down and you are quiet and fully present.

Step 4: Ask yourself the following questions while keeping your full attention on your emotional sensations:

  • Where is this coming from?
    Pause and listen for the answer.
  • What is it trying to tell me?
    Pause and listen for the answer.
  • What are you resisting?
    Pause and listen for the answer.

Step 5: Integrate whatever answers you get by observing, without judgment, whatever comes up. You might want to take some notes to remember your insights or the decisions you make as a result of your discoveries.

Expected results:
Deep insights. Emotional relief. Raised awareness. Empowered confidence. Sometimes emotional or even physical healing. Sometimes a shift in beliefs. Sometimes a change in habits. Maybe new actions based upon new decisions.

Important hints:
If for some unknown reason none of the expected results happens, check the quality of Step 3, which is the most difficult one for most people. Either your attention is not fully on your emotions or you are not completely calmed down.

If all steps are done properly and still no results occur, please trust that a wiser part in you has decided that it is not yet the right time to raise the veil from your sub-consciousness. Be in peace with it and go through the process again at another time.

Disclaimer: This process is created for mentally stable and healthy people to conduct self-coaching and research into their own sub-consciousness. If you suffer from strong traumas or mental diseases or brain dysfunctions, please don't try this process alone; do it only under the supervision of your mental health provider. I, Sylvia Becker-Hill, the creator of this process, am not responsible for its proper use or outcomes for you or anyone else.

I would be delighted and honored to hear some feedback from your research with these five steps. You can leave comments on my blog or speak with me directly via

Sylvia Recommends (Books and More)

A great summer read with action-provoking exercises and questionnaires that have the power to forever change your priorities and beliefs about what matters in your life:
"The How of Happiness. A scientific approach to getting the life you want" by Sonja Lyubomirsky. Don't ask me how to pronounce the author's name :-). Just buy and read it. You can get a German translation too. One of my female executive clients in Duesseldorf gave it away as a gift to more than ten people in the first six weeks after she read it!

What Sylvia Is Doing This Month

You could have met me in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, where I spent three days at Pamela Bruner's great event, TRANSFORM!, the first big conference for entrepreneurs that combined business growing information AND transformational EFT work. It was an awesome experience, and in the next newsletter I will share some of my lessons learned.

Besides that, my focus is on renovating my new home office, preparing for the one-month visit of my in-laws from New Zealand, working on my new signature program, and finishing my certification around "Change Works" from The Tension Management Institute, all while enjoying the summer as much as I can.


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Personal Note from Sylvia

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Sylvia Becker-Hill, Dipl. Verw., MA Phil, PCC
Own Your Brain. Own Your Life.™

Under this motto Sylvia works as an Executive Change Strategist helping corporate leaders to become change champions while gaining more control, efficiency and productivity with less stress.

Combining her years of experience as a corporate coach with cutting edge techniques in change management, neuroscience, emotional intelligence and Pro-EFT Sylvia expertly guides her clients to achieve quickly deep, lasting, life changing transformations that they report as nothing short of magical.



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