my last newsletter I shared my challenging, intense travel plans: 19 days away
from home in just one month to work in four different U.S. states plus Germany.
I was worried because I have a tendency to get a nasty cold when working so
intensively and dealing with stress, time zone shifts, air conditioning, plane
rides, sleep and exercise deprivation, and too much food in hotel restaurants.
Previously, if I didn’t get sick while traveling, I usually crashed afterwards
for a few days at home.
This time I was committed to doing something different.
I changed some of my usual old habits and added new healthier ones: e.g., I kept
on going with my new vegan eating style as much as possible and discovered new
types of restaurants and food; in order to have more quiet evenings and more
sleep, I didn’t tell all my friends that I would be in Germany; I did a bit of
yoga alone sporadically and even enjoyed a Kundalini workshop on the last day of
my long trip before flying back to the U.S.
I felt great the whole time—rested, centered with only a tiny bit of
jetlag at the very end back home. No cold. No crashing. Wouh, even though each
small habit wasn’t a “big thing,” they added up to a huge breakthrough for me.
In the photo above you can see my new home office with my sunflower yellow wall
and my vision-collages. One is crucial for the changes I just described: get
Most of my clients are overworked, sometimes overwhelmed; some are even close to
a burnout. If I want to be a great coach and role model for them, I NEED to live
and work a different way. Being resourceful is key for me as a coach. My clients
pay a lot of money and deserve to have me at my best, mentally and physically,
so I can focus on their needs. Are all of these lifestyle changes easy for me?
No, especially trying to squeeze working out and yoga into my super-busy
schedule; that’s an art I still have to master. But I know what we humans need
in order to change, so I know that I will succeed eventually.
Learn how YOU can
make major changes in the way you work and live… in the feature article below.
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This Month's Featured Article
Old Habits Die Hard
One thing I always admire about my husband Peter is his ability to create new
routines in his life. As a project manager working inside cloud-computing for
HP, most of his work days are very stressful, dealing with hidden agendas,
internal politics, impossible deadlines and hours of conference calls with
people all over the world while trying to meet client demands, solve delivery
problems and please cost-cutting CEOs. In addition, he has a demanding wife and
two elementary-school age boys. How does he manage his sanity?
He does yoga.
For your inspiration about how easy it can be to integrate something healthy
into you work life, watch this short two-minute video:
I know. It helps that he works from home most days. But still, it’s an example
of creating a healthy habit, and I’m going to teach you how to do that too!
I’m going to explain how you can coach yourself to change an old habit and
install a new one. The process is based on my 15 years of expertise in change
management and my years of studying the brain and how it can rewire itself. I
developed the process and have had huge successes with it—for myself and for
several clients. Will it be easy? Maybe, but I hate how all the “super
success” gurus scream from the rooftops how “easy” success can be. This makes me
feel as if my hard struggles aren’t seen or respected, so I prefer to simply
tell you that this process makes the change possible, and it might
be easy. Even if it is hard, you can still succeed.
At the end of this article is a link to a shorter, printer-friendly version of
the process that you can download and use as often as you like.
10 Steps Habit Mastery™
When to use this process: 1) If you want to change something at work or
in your life that you know is based on a habit of feeling, thinking or acting
and that you haven’t been able to change by simply using your willpower. 2) If
you have tried several times and failed.
Success-generating attitude: Open mind, open heart, gentleness,
compassion and curiosity
Step 1: Become aware of what in your life or at work calls you to change it.
Step 2: Use self-reflection and introspection to see which of your habits
created the situation as it is now. Distinguish clearly between habitual
thoughts (beliefs and your drama-story), habitual feelings (righteousness,
reactive patterns) and habitual actions (being on autopilot).
Step 3: Let go of any judgment and any resistance you might have against
your habitual thoughts, feelings or actions.
Step 4: Understand that at the time you created these habits, they served
a positive purpose. (Hint: Most of the time your ego created them, and the
purpose was to protect you from assumed and projected pain!) Times have changed.
The circumstances and challenges of your life have changed. You have changed...
Step 5: Forgive yourself for creating these habits and for having them
for so long.
Step 6: Design new thoughts, feelings and actions that are better aligned
with your desired change. (See step 1.)
Step 7: Commit to train yourself to think, feel and act this way until it
becomes a new hard-wired habit.
Step 8: Act as if it is already a new habit and start NOW!
Step 9: Enjoy seeing yourself grow as a change master.
Step 10: Celebrate your successes by sharing them with others, which
reinforces the successes’ habitual nature!
Important Hints: If for some unknown reason none of the expected changes
happen or they are not lasting, check the quality of Steps 3 and 5, which are
the most difficult ones for many people. You are either holding on to negative
self-judgment or you resist forgiving yourself. Please check your
success-generating attitude as described above.
If all steps are done properly and still no results occur, please ask a friend
or a professional coach to help you go through the process. Maybe there is a
blind spot you don’t see.
Disclaimer: This process is created for mentally stable and healthy
people to conduct self-coaching and research into their own sub-consciousness.
If you suffer from strong traumas or mental diseases or brain dysfunctions,
please don’t try this process alone; do it only under the supervision of your
mental health provider. Sylvia Becker-Hill is not responsible for its proper use
or outcomes for you or anyone else.
What is Sylvia doing this month?
February 28-29: Coach fellows of the Detroit Revitalization Fellows
Program at Wayne State University in Detroit, MI
March 5: Facilitate fourth class for the Remote Coaching Curricula
as an adjunct faculty member of the FH Nordschweiz via telephone conference
March 8: Speaking at the 2nd West Michigan Coaches Forum on “How To
Become a Money-Magnet Through Emotional Intelligence” in Grand Rapids, MI
March 17: Facilitating a Business Best Practice Modeling Event at
the PCAM South East Empowerment Forum WALSH-College in Troy, MI
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hearing from you, and if you have a success story to share about installing a
new habit, please allow me to publish it in one of the next newsletters!
As you move forward, I wish you compassion for your own imperfections—and
amazing results from your efforts.
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Dipl. Verw., MA Phil, PCC Own Your Brain. Own Your Life.™
Under this motto
Sylvia works as an Executive Change Strategist
helping corporate leaders to become change champions
while gaining more control, efficiency and
productivity with less stress.
Combining her years of
experience as a corporate coach with cutting edge
techniques in change management, neuroscience,
emotional intelligence and Pro-EFT Sylvia expertly
guides her clients to achieve quickly deep, lasting,
life changing transformations that they report as
nothing short of magical.
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