If you’ve been subscribing for a while, you know that I like to share processes you can use to experience coaching and to generate insights or even changes. This month I’m providing a tool from Gestalt Therapy that I use for myself and for my clients; it is for measuring satisfaction in different areas of your life.
Imagine your life is this beautiful temple. It is stable and beautiful and protects everything that is important to you as long as all of its pillars are strong and its roof lays evenly over all of them. If one or more pillars is weak and becomes smaller than the others, the roof will slide to one side, and the whole architecture of your temple—your life—could crumble and crash.
Please take a pencil and imagine that each pillar represents 100% satisfaction with your experience in its designated area: work/performance, material safety/money, social networks and relationships, etc. Ask yourself—maybe with closed eyes and after taking in some deep breaths to connect with the question and the specific area you are considering—on a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you in this area of your life right now? Whatever number comes up, take that as a percentage and fill the corresponding column up to that point. For example, let’s say the number is 6 for work and performance; you would convert that to 60% and shade in the first column up to the level of 60%. Continue to do the same for each pillar.
After finishing the whole temple, take a step back and review it.
- What is your first thought upon looking at it?
- How accurate is it?
- What does it tell you about your life and about each pillar?
- How stable is your temple of life?
Be careful: With extremely low satisfaction across the board, the roof will look balanced and stable, but who wants a temple that’s just three feet high?!
- Which pillars have a level of satisfaction that make you say, “Great! That can or should stay the way it is.”? (These are your assets and resource areas!)
- Which pillars show such a low level of satisfaction that you think and feel, “This must change.”?
When it is time for a change, this question elicits different answers from different people. It is linked to your expectations of yourself and life in general. Some people are more easily satisfied and demand less than others. So don’t compare your temple of life with someone else’s. Use it to compare your own progress by doing this exercise every six months!
Your sense of urgency and importance of “NOW is the time to change something” depends on your interpretation of the image you created.
What have you decided? Is it time for a change?